How to Flirt With a Girl Online
Talking to a woman in a serious, unflirtatious manner is sure to bore her and cause her to completely lose interest in you. Newsflash: You’ve got to flirt… And this is especially true when you are communicating with a girl on a dating site. You absolutely need to be flirty with her from the start!
The sad thing is, most guys don’t even understand what flirting is, let alone how to do it effectively. So, when you know how to flirt the way women want you to, you’re going to have a massive advantage over your competition. Okay? lets get into it…
Flirting is how you communicate with someone to let them know that you are interested in them, sexually. There are many ways to do this including: teasing her, making jokes, giving her extra attention, touching her, maintaining eye contact with her for extended periods, complimenting her, and being overtly sexual. There’s a time and place for each of these types of flirting and you should be doing all of them, often. The trick is knowing how to use these things the right way at the right time.
Here are some basic rules for how to flirt with a girl online, whether through email, instant messenger, or once you get her number, on the phone:
1) Don’t focus on results
Most guys are way too serious when they’re communicating with women. They stay “in their heads”, trying to be strategical and get the date lined up or get the girl back to their place, or whatever, rather than just focusing on the girl and having FUN talking to her. Don’t look at your interaction as work towards a specified end. Instead, look at it as chance to enjoy vibing with some random girl and seeing if she is really the type of chick you want to mess with.
2) Talk about flirty topics
Some topics are nice and spicy and can facilitate the flirting process. These include: other peoples relationships, celebrity gossip, people’s appearances, your partying escapades and many others. As you get better at flirting, you’ll be able to get spicy with almost any topic.
3) Focus on teasing and jokes
Out of all the different ways to flirt, teasing your girl and making slightly off color jokes are the most applicable to online communication. Obviously you can’t do any kind of physical flirting online, so thats out. And complimenting her too early is going to make you look desperate, so you definitely can’t do that online. Oh, and when I say “jokes” I’m not talking about becoming a comedian and telling knock-knock jokes. What I mean is to have a jokey attitude and poke fun at things in a playful way.
4) Don’t get too sexual
Flirting is all about having fun and pushing the envelope, so you’ve got to be a little ballsy. You want to say things that will make the girl go “OMG did you really just say that? You are a naughty boy!” But you don’t want to freak her out and make her think that you are a perv. Particularly when you’re online you want to hold back on the sexy talk.
Being a good flirter is all about having social intelligence so that you are able to calibrate with your girl and push all the right buttons. However, you don’t need to be specially gifted to become an online flirting master and date lots of hot women.
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